ok there is 1 thing i cant get my head around it , u cant train settlers before have expansion slots which requires building an academy to lvl 10 and and a tonwhall ... so how am i going to get enough resources to build academy to lvl 10 before getting the reward from creating 3 settlers
You will get first Expansion Slot when you have lvl 10 of Residence / Palace.
You didn't need to build Academy to lvl 10 and build Townhall.
But you need to build Academy to lvl 10 and Build Townhall to get 800 Culture points from "Construct a Townhall" Quest, so you will have enough Culture Points slots that used for settling new village (if still didn't enough Culture Points, then you need to finish "Small celebration" Quest to get 500 Culture Points). Here is full list of Quest in Travia: Kingdom.